Personal Wellbeing – 12. What went wrong? A case for parenting for failure.

Personal Wellbeing Series - Article 12

Stating the obvious…

There was a very brilliant boy, he always scored 100% in Science.

Got selected for IIT Madras and scored excellent in IIT.

Went to the University of California for MBA.

Got a high-paying job in America and settled there.

Married a beautiful Tamil girl.

Bought a 5-room big house and luxury cars.

He had everything that made him successful, but a few years ago, he committed suicide after shooting his wife and children.


The California Institute of Clinical Psychology studied his case and found, “What went wrong?”

The researcher met the boy’s friends and family and found that he lost his job due to America’s economic crisis, and he had to sit without a job for a long time.

Even after reducing his previous salary, he didn’t get any jobs.

Then his house installment broke and he and his family lost the home.

They survived a few months with less money and then he and his wife together decided to commit suicide.

He first shot his wife and children and then shot himself.

The case concluded that the man was Programmed for success but he was not trained for handling failures.

Now let’s come to the actual question.

What are the habits of highly successful people?

First of all, I want to tell you that if you have achieved everything, there is a chance to lose everything. Nobody knows when the next economic crisis will hit the world.

The best success habit is getting trained to handle failures.

I want to request every parent to please not only program their child to be successful but also teach them how to handle failures and teach them proper lessons about life.

Learning high-level science and math will help them clear competitive exams, but knowledge about life will help them face every problem.

Teach them about how money works instead of teaching them to work for money.

Help them find their passion because these degrees will not help them in the next economic crisis, and we don’t know when the next crisis will hit the world.

“Success is a lousy teacher. Failure teaches you more.”


This serves as a stark reminder of the importance of holistic well-being and stress management. Despite achieving academic and professional success, our inability to cope with failure and economic hardship can ultimately lead to a devastating outcome. California Institute of Clinical Psychology’s study of the case revealed that the individual was ill-equipped to navigate adversity, highlighting the critical need for resilience and coping mechanisms.

There is a dire necessity to instill in individuals, especially children, not only a drive for success but also the skills to handle setbacks and challenges, for their overall wellbeing. While academic achievements are valuable, they do not guarantee immunity from life’s uncertainties. Instead, a comprehensive understanding of life, including financial literacy and emotional resilience, equips individuals to face adversity with strength and adaptability.

In light of this, parents need to prioritize holistic education, emphasizing life lessons alongside academic pursuits. Rather than solely focusing on academic excellence, parents are urged to nurture their children’s passions and teach them about the realities of life, including financial management and coping strategies. Ultimately, success is not solely defined by achievements but also by one’s ability to weather storms and emerge resilient.

If you really care, please share with other parents, helicopter or otherwise.

Kindly note: This article was shared with me anonymously, and I’m uncertain about the original author’s identity. However, I’m passing it along to all of you in the hope that it reaches as many parents as possible. Let’s work together to transform lives, as the original author intended. I have merely added my summarised views.

Ajay Mahajan | +91 96548 89815 |

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